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Growth After Trauma or Loss Part 2

In a recent article on Post-Traumatic Growth I discussed the affect of trauma on personal growth. Outcomes of trauma include such things as deeper relationships, spiritual development, more personal strength, new opportunities, and a greater appreciation for life in general.  So how does that happen? Stages of Post-Traumatic Growth   Part 1: “Shattered” When tragedy […]

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The Courage to Risk Making a Bad Decision: The George Washington Story Part 1

What do you do when there’s only two choices and neither one is safe?  Or more bluntly, do I have the courage to make a bad decision? Indecisive could describe George Washington’s early military career. By all accounts he wasn’t sure he wanted the job in the first place.  Leading a largely untrained and undisciplined […]

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There’s Something New Besides the Shoe

The heel of my shoe fell off today and at that moment I realized how the feeling of shame had changed in my life. Flashback to the fifth grade.  In an ever-present effort to live within a $600/month income, my parents discovered a way to buy cheaper tennis shoes than the Keds at K-Mart. They […]


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Motivation is Not an Emotion

Have you ever been excited about a clever new diet, only to have it fail?  Have you seen someone promise, through tears, that they would never drink again?  Or perhaps you’ve had a female friend that swears to you that she will never go back to that man that is hurting her?  It’s perplexing when […]


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Five Themes For Escaping Domestic Violence

Sometimes domestic violence or “Intimate partner violence” (IPV) seems like an unbeatable phenomenon.  Abused and abuser are bound together by a force stronger than pain or hope.  Police officers and social workers  are rendered powerless by this mysterious attachment.  Arrests and well-intended referrals end with a defense of the abuser and a return home.  It’s […]