The committee members are all assembled. It’s Friday and the morning is leaning into the afternoon, the refuse of lengthy deliberations scattered around the room. A decision has to be made. As the chairperson, you make a final request for opinions on the issue at hand: will it be a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No’?
“It will never work,” Frank says. Bad experiences have made him a sissy with anything risky.
Allie is wondering what people will think of her vote.
In a monotone voice George begins to elaborate, “It’s obvious what we should do, if you think about it…” He’s the logical guy. He’s Spock.
Jim is lazy. If there’s a low-impact option that’s what he will support.
Gina is a humanitarian. She will choose whatever seems best for society as a whole.
Joanne looks forward, “Are we going to like this decision 5 years from now?”
Jennifer is ready for the weekend and just wants get on with it. At this moment, she doesn’t care much what the decision is. That could change by Monday, though.
You close your eyes and the cacophony of voices seems to rise as your spirits fall. There’s still no clear decision.
The Committee of My Mind
Welcome to the committee of my mind. Now that you’ve met the members, what do you think of them? Who would you listen to the most? Can you identify the members of your own “committee”? Have you decided which ones should be ignored?
Writer Cecil Murphey mentions a unique approach to sorting out the options in hard decisions. Instead of asking, “Do I want to do A or B?”, he asks, “Which PART of me wants to do A? What about B?” We ought make sure that the best “members” of our committee are driving the vote.
It’s OK to listen to these voices in your head. It won’t make you crazy and it might make you brilliant. The more you listen, the more familiar they will become. You can even give them names like Fear, Compassion, Prejudice, Reason, Greed, Intuition, and so on. You can say to yourself in the whisper of your thoughts, “Prejudice, I hear you, but you’re voice is not relevant here. Intuition, speak louder because Greed is drowning you out.”
Facing a big decision? What part of you is saying yes or saying no? Which parts of you are speaking loudest? Which members of your “committee” should be asked to leave the discussion?
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